If you are used to organising large troop movements, you'll be fine. If you have the ability to juggle 150 different things in your head at any one time, without breaking a sweat, you'll have no problems.

If this isn't second nature for you, then mobilising your family and your partner's family, not to mention all those friends, in a carefully orchestrated, 24 hour emotional, rollercoaster ride, may be a little bit stressful. Nuptials can be tough to arrange.

The first lesson to learn is RELAX. This can come in useful in all sorts of situations and we recommend writing it on your hand in biro as a quick reference.

Next, GET HELP! This may be from a professional wedding organiser or from friends and family. Remember that people want to help you because you are getting married and its going to be a wonderful day. When you are choosing your best man, bridesmaids and ushers, try to get some level-headed, helpful people among them.

BE FLEXIBLE. OK, its your wedding day but its also someone's son or daughter's wedding day as well. Everyone has a mental image of what they would like; the wedding cake, the flowers, the meal and the speeches and of course, the wedding dress. So don't be surprised at the suggestions for lime green and orange bridesmaids dresses. Discuss each issue calmly and if things get heated, agree to disagree and come back to it another day.

MONEY, MONEY, MONEY. The average wedding in the UK now weighs in at around £17,000. Yes, that's £17,000! So a word of warning, keep a running total of the costs you are incurring and don't just take the first price you are offered. Shop around, ask for a lower rate or see what deals are available.

And finally, ENJOY YOURSELVES. Whether its a society wedding or a low key family-only affair, we can guarantee that the day will fly by, so make the most of it. No-one will remember the table decorations you spent weeks agonising over, so if they don't turn out exactly as you wanted on the day, don't worry. Have a great day but also have a great time organising it all.