Your wedding day is one of the most blissful days of your life, but it can be a very stressful time too! That’s why one of the first questions you should ask yourself when planning your big day is ‘Who will I ask to be my Maid/ Man of Honour?’
If your best friend happens to be a man, you shouldn’t let tradition stop you from having him stand by your side, offering his support and keeping you calm. The chances are that if he has been in your life for many years, your friends and family already know and love him. Therefore, it would feel completely natural and appropriate to have him stand in place of a maid of honour. Having a man of honour is not about replacing a woman with a man, it’s about having your best friend there for you on your special day, no matter what their gender. You might find a male’s perspective pretty useful too when planning your day, however be warned, he might not be the best at fixing your dress!
In this day and age, it’s perfectly normal to have a best friend from the opposite sex, as our social circles tend to be mixed. The gender roles in conventional weddings can make it seem that you’re doing something wrong if you don’t stick to tradition. However, there’s no point casting him off with the groom and groomsmen when you want him to be with you. After all, it’s your wedding day, so you make the rules! As long as he’s happy to attend your hen party, where’s the problem?
If you’re thinking about asking your male friend to be your honour attendant, go for it! You can call him your man of honour, or a brides-man if you’d prefer him standing with the bridesmaids. A male honour attendant would typically wear the same attire as the groomsmen, the only difference would be that his tie would match the colour of the bridesmaids dresses.
Gender roles aren’t as fixed as they used to be, therefore we should all be happy to embrace new social roles. Having your best male friend act as your man of honour on your wedding day breaks down gender barriers and is a fantastic approach to gender equality.
Let us know your thoughts on having a man of honour at your wedding!